It is now 20 years ago since I started working with dog loving persons.
Over the years I have learned how to become the interpreter of what the dogs are telling me. What I read in their body language is always true.That is why it is, according to me, so easy to understand dogs.
As far as Schuessler minerals are concerned, it is also much easier for me to work with dogs than with humans. Dogs simply get better, no questions asked..
My work with dogs and their handlers still fascinates me because the more I teach the more I learn.
It took a while before I could start reading the real meaning of words used by us humans.
Years ago I wrote about some words in English that are being used by my clients.
Some of these words are "Sorry", "normally", "generally" and "I have to".
But the most damaging word, creating an enormous amount of shame and guilt, is according to me the word SHOULD.
As I keep on hearing so many people using the word SHOULD I want to write about it again.
This violent word, which we commonly use to evaluate ourselves, is so deeply ingrained in our consciousness that many of us would have trouble imagining how to live without it. It is the word SHOULD, as in "I should have known better", or "I should not have done that", or "I should take more Schuessler minerals", or "I should learn how to deal with my dog", or "I should give up smoking", or "I should exercise more".
Most of the time when we use SHOULD, we resist learning, because SHOULD implies there is no choice. Humans, when hearing any kind of demand, tend to resist because it threatens our autonomy-our strong need for choice. We have this reaction to tyranny even when it is the internal tyranny of a dictator called "SHOULD".
Humans keep saying I SHOULD and keep resisting doing what they should, because we were not meant to be slaves. We also were not meant to succumb to dictators called "I SHOULD" or "I HAVE TO", whether these dictators live in a palace in the capital city or inside of ourselves.
"I SHOULD" are two very damaging words, because when we say it, we are in effect saying "I AM WRONG". I think we do not need more "wrongs" in our life. We need to have more freedom of choice.
Do you want an immediate solution?
The solution is to replace "I SHOULD" with a sentence like "IF I REALLY WANTED TO, I COULD...".
Here are some examples:
"If I really wanted, I could take Schuessler minerals".
"If I really wanted I could learn how to deal with my dog."
"If I really wanted I could stop smoking/eating junk food/drinking too much alcohol/ taking drugs..."
Do you see how you have a choice when you use this kind of sentence instead of saying I should?
If you really wanted to do something, you could do it, or not do it.
Try it out.
Recommended reading
"Nonviolent Communication. A language of life" by Marshall B. Rosenberg
"You can heal your life" by Louise L. Hay
Kindest regards from Bruno
